It’说这个词不是什么秘密，“pre-nup” to a newly engaged person often brings on a whole range of emotions. To many people, suggesting a 婚前 is effectively the same as questioning their loyalty to their future husband or wife. There is often an assumption that suggesting a 婚前 basically amounts to telling your future spouse to prepare in advance for the marriage to fail. However, 婚前s provide a wide range of benefits to each person 和 can also be a valuable communication tool between future spouses. When I hear of newly engaged couples spending hours 和 exorbitant sums of money on hall rentals, flowers, 和 wedding attire, it boggles my mind that important conversations about finance 和 future lifestyles are very often avoided. A 婚前 can be more than just an agreement; it can be a process that allows the engaged couple to discuss ideas, concerns, 和 expectations for the relationship, which can help reduce stress 和 help to build a strong relationship moving forward.
Pre-nup is short for prenuptial agreement 和 provides a framework for distribution of assets in the event of the marriage dissolving. It can also spell out the rights 和 responsibilities of each party. This is an official definition that people turn to when discussing the possibility of a 婚前, but it is important to understand that any definition you look at simply scratches the surface of what a 婚前 can do for you. Because a 婚前, much like any agreement, will be tailored specifically to you 和 your future spouse, it can be hard to spell out exactly what every benefit will be.
After a careful review of how 婚前s are generally drafted 和 the process used to reach the agreement, I’ve narrowed it down to five main reasons that a 婚前 is not the scary 和 terrible thing many people think it is:
这是很基本的，但是’s true! Discussing the possibility of a 婚前 promotes honest 和 open communication between future spouses, 和 isn’t that what marriage is all about anyway? Whether, as a couple, you ultimately decide that a 婚前 is or is not for you, you’ve at least had an open discussion on the topic. The other four reasons I have listed revolve around open communication, so in a way, this could be considered the most valuable benefit of a 婚前.
Although a 婚前 can include a whole variety of topics, the main element (and usually most stressful) is the financial aspect. One of the biggest criticisms I hear from people seemingly opposed to 婚前s is that if a person brings it up, they are seen as being greedy, caring more about their money than their spouse, 和 so on. However, given that 婚前s can cover income, assets, questions of lifestyle 和 responsibilities of the parties, it allows the couple to essentially create a plan for their life together.
就像第1项是被带到其他好处的总括性好处一样，这将一切联系在一起。当您真正利用并欣赏我提到的其他好处时，它使每个人都可以在管理关系动态中发挥积极作用。这有助于建立信任。一旦开始讨论每个人’期望并开始制定计划，这将使您更容易表达对自己和伴侣的想法和意见’s respective roles in the marriage. Even though people tend to view 婚前s as dealing only with money, we all know that marriage is about so much more than that. There are so many other contributions that someone can make to the marriage 和 the 婚前 process allows you to address those contributions 和 discuss how to plan accordingly.
Nothing about a 婚前 is easy. It requires two people to sit down 和 have a conversation about a lot of things that we tend to put off on purpose. You 和 your partner might ultimately decide that a 婚前 isn’适合您。但是，如果您打开对话并在过程中发挥自己的作用，则通过为将来处理财务和其他现实情况奠定基础，您会发现自己处于积极位置。聪明的新娘和新郎在一起计划一生，而不仅仅是结婚那天。